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brendi · 10-31-2007, 08:11 PM

I have been with my Fiance for over six years we are planning to get married next year. We've recetly brough up prenuptials, we though it would be a good time to discuss it because his brother, who is also getting married next year has told him that he and his fiance have decided to sign a prenup. Now his brother is trying to convince him to do it. you know ... "to protect the both of us" well we've never really though about it.... now we are and i kinda think its not neccesary. Its not like we are millionars and own estates. we have been together since we were in high school and come along this far in life w/ eathother. He is a correctional officer and i am finishing my education achieving my BA in communications. We stood by each others side and help each other get to where we are today. We have helped eachother financialy,sacraficed opprotunites for another etc. In the event that we do divorce i think we owe each other that much. 50/50 <br />is that stupidity or what? waduya think?<br />

Mazlow · 10-31-2007, 08:11 PM

i thought prenups were for people who had separate assets from their adult lives before they met their fiancees. i dont know what a prenup would do for you two, since you have been together since high school.

papen · 10-31-2007, 08:11 PM

The only reason I would think one would need to sign a prenup is if you two have children from previous relationships and you do it to protect the children..other wise, I don't think it's necessary..it's like you are going into the marriage with doubts...

murin · 10-31-2007, 08:11 PM

u should never go into a marriage expecting to divorce. if u feel that way---then don't marry.

i don't believe in prenups---and my husband and i are happy as can be!!

Mazlow · 10-31-2007, 08:11 PM

You don't need to do it if you don't want to. If you want to find out more about it and decide if it's right for you - go see an attorney. It doesn't cost much for one consultation, and it will give you a better idea whether or not you want to bother with it. My husband and I consulted a lawyer before getting married, and found out that everything we wanted to put in the pre-nup is already covered by the standard divorce laws. So, we felt it was unnecessary to get one.

ripper · 10-31-2007, 08:11 PM

I think prenups should only be for married couples that have a lot to loose or if one is supporting the other for a long period of time

lucky_guy · 10-31-2007, 08:11 PM

If you can support yourself, why is it an issue? Just sign it. Chances are you're probably be earning more money than him anyway.

papen · 10-31-2007, 08:11 PM

if your guy's parents have some estate - like country house, own house, some business etc... in case they die and leave a will or no will all stuff goes to your guy and his brother(s). so in case u want to divorse your guy he will have to devide inherited stuff with u 50-50. this i think his brother doesn't want and i don't blame him. sign a prenup and do not start arguing with your guy. it is not your stuff anyway, so don't claim it. his parents were working their butts off for that

realtime · 10-31-2007, 08:11 PM

A prenup will immediately say that you are "not as one".
The path of life is too narrow unless its walked as One. If the two of you are not a millionaire, then I would leave the fuss behind. I know two marriages that it doomed. The day they started it was always, yours and mine instead of OURS.

X-MEN · 10-31-2007, 08:11 PM

If you are planning to Divorce after some years then you can go for it.

Vince · 10-31-2007, 08:11 PM

I dont think you need to do it; however, since you plan on spending the rest of your life with him and its what he wants, why not?

getnick · 06-20-2008, 08:55 PM

wow, i just read this thread. talk about some horrible and ignorant advice.

1) a prenuptial agreement isn't just about what you have now, it's about what you COULD have in the future.

2) if you were to have children and then get a divorce, what would you do? why not just do it and have insurance against any possible event that could happen.

3) you also need a trust and a will. it's part of documentation. it's not just for millionaires, but part of the whole marriage process.

It is extremely foolish to say, "if you think you are going to get a divorce, don't get married." It's not entirely about divorce. If you are paranoid about how bad it sounds, maybe then you shouldn't get married. If you are 100% confident your marriage will last for 70 years, sign the paper and move on. There is nothing to worry about.

reckedracing · 06-26-2008, 09:36 PM

A will is especially helpful to those you leave behind.
A will specifying who gets what assets can help keep the family focused without fighting.
You should also specify what funeral arrangements/burial plans you would like to have.

nootrac22 · 06-26-2008, 09:42 PM

everyone should have a prenup and a will IMO. Putting things in writing can never hurt. If you have no assets to protect with a prenup write up your own and the 2 of you can sign it. Granted it wouldn't hold up against a slick attorney, but if you have very little what's the chances of using an attorney for divorce.

briansol · 06-26-2008, 09:45 PM

^ it will if it gets notarized. most post offices will notoraize a document for free. just go down and sign in person.

nootrac22 · 06-26-2008, 09:47 PM

I learned a lot with the current divorce. I was shocked to learn that you can be sued in the divorce for youother halvs attorneys fees. So you might have to pay for the lawyer who's bending you over.

getnick · 06-26-2008, 10:05 PM

its easy to get something notarized. most banks will do it to.

i'm getting a prenup if i ever get married, probably not something i'll have to worry about though.

briansol · 06-26-2008, 11:08 PM

yup. I 100% will be getting one should the day arise. I have far too much to lose, and 98% of women are gold diggers.
If she won't sign it, that just proves to me more that she's not worth keeping.

NEEEEXT!!!!!!!!!!

10-31-2007, 08:11 PM	#1 (permalink)
brendi Greenhorn Join Date: Jul 2006 Posts: 11 Rep Power: 0	Signing a prenuptial agreement? I have been with my Fiance for over six years we are planning to get married next year. We've recetly brough up prenuptials, we though it would be a good time to discuss it because his brother, who is also getting married next year has told him that he and his fiance have decided to sign a prenup. Now his brother is trying to convince him to do it. you know ... "to protect the both of us" well we've never really though about it.... now we are and i kinda think its not neccesary. Its not like we are millionars and own estates. we have been together since we were in high school and come along this far in life w/ eathother. He is a correctional officer and i am finishing my education achieving my BA in communications. We stood by each others side and help each other get to where we are today. We have helped eachother financialy,sacraficed opprotunites for another etc. In the event that we do divorce i think we owe each other that much. 50/50 <br />is that stupidity or what? waduya think?<br />

10-31-2007, 08:11 PM	#2 (permalink)
Mazlow Greenhorn Join Date: Jul 2006 Posts: 9 Rep Power: 0	Signing a prenuptial agreement? i thought prenups were for people who had separate assets from their adult lives before they met their fiancees. i dont know what a prenup would do for you two, since you have been together since high school.

10-31-2007, 08:11 PM	#3 (permalink)
papen Greenhorn Join Date: Jul 2006 Posts: 21 Rep Power: 3	Signing a prenuptial agreement? The only reason I would think one would need to sign a prenup is if you two have children from previous relationships and you do it to protect the children..other wise, I don't think it's necessary..it's like you are going into the marriage with doubts...

10-31-2007, 08:11 PM	#4 (permalink)
murin Greenhorn Join Date: Jul 2006 Posts: 13 Rep Power: 0	Signing a prenuptial agreement? u should never go into a marriage expecting to divorce. if u feel that way---then don't marry. i don't believe in prenups---and my husband and i are happy as can be!!

10-31-2007, 08:11 PM	#5 (permalink)
Mazlow Greenhorn Join Date: Jul 2006 Posts: 9 Rep Power: 0	Signing a prenuptial agreement? You don't need to do it if you don't want to. If you want to find out more about it and decide if it's right for you - go see an attorney. It doesn't cost much for one consultation, and it will give you a better idea whether or not you want to bother with it. My husband and I consulted a lawyer before getting married, and found out that everything we wanted to put in the pre-nup is already covered by the standard divorce laws. So, we felt it was unnecessary to get one.

10-31-2007, 08:11 PM	#6 (permalink)
ripper Greenhorn Join Date: Jul 2006 Posts: 4 Rep Power: 0	Signing a prenuptial agreement? I think prenups should only be for married couples that have a lot to loose or if one is supporting the other for a long period of time

10-31-2007, 08:11 PM	#7 (permalink)
lucky_guy Greenhorn Join Date: Jul 2006 Posts: 18 Rep Power: 0	Signing a prenuptial agreement? If you can support yourself, why is it an issue? Just sign it. Chances are you're probably be earning more money than him anyway.

10-31-2007, 08:11 PM	#8 (permalink)
papen Greenhorn Join Date: Jul 2006 Posts: 21 Rep Power: 3	Signing a prenuptial agreement? if your guy's parents have some estate - like country house, own house, some business etc... in case they die and leave a will or no will all stuff goes to your guy and his brother(s). so in case u want to divorse your guy he will have to devide inherited stuff with u 50-50. this i think his brother doesn't want and i don't blame him. sign a prenup and do not start arguing with your guy. it is not your stuff anyway, so don't claim it. his parents were working their butts off for that

10-31-2007, 08:11 PM	#9 (permalink)
realtime Greenhorn Join Date: Jul 2006 Posts: 27 Rep Power: 3	Signing a prenuptial agreement? A prenup will immediately say that you are "not as one". The path of life is too narrow unless its walked as One. If the two of you are not a millionaire, then I would leave the fuss behind. I know two marriages that it doomed. The day they started it was always, yours and mine instead of OURS.

10-31-2007, 08:11 PM	#10 (permalink)
X-MEN Greenhorn Join Date: Jul 2006 Posts: 5 Rep Power: 0	Signing a prenuptial agreement? If you are planning to Divorce after some years then you can go for it.

10-31-2007, 08:11 PM	#11 (permalink)
Vince Greenhorn Join Date: Jul 2006 Posts: 17 Rep Power: 0	Signing a prenuptial agreement? I dont think you need to do it; however, since you plan on spending the rest of your life with him and its what he wants, why not?

06-20-2008, 08:55 PM	#12 (permalink)
getnick Super Moderator Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: West Coast Posts: 545 Rep Power: 4	wow, i just read this thread. talk about some horrible and ignorant advice. 1) a prenuptial agreement isn't just about what you have now, it's about what you COULD have in the future. 2) if you were to have children and then get a divorce, what would you do? why not just do it and have insurance against any possible event that could happen. 3) you also need a trust and a will. it's part of documentation. it's not just for millionaires, but part of the whole marriage process. It is extremely foolish to say, "if you think you are going to get a divorce, don't get married." It's not entirely about divorce. If you are paranoid about how bad it sounds, maybe then you shouldn't get married. If you are 100% confident your marriage will last for 70 years, sign the paper and move on. There is nothing to worry about.

06-26-2008, 09:36 PM	#13 (permalink)
reckedracing Greenhorn Join Date: Aug 2006 Age: 28 Posts: 26 Rep Power: 3	A will is especially helpful to those you leave behind. A will specifying who gets what assets can help keep the family focused without fighting. You should also specify what funeral arrangements/burial plans you would like to have.

06-26-2008, 09:42 PM	#14 (permalink)
nootrac22 Piggy Bank Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: pa Age: 32 Posts: 79 Rep Power: 1	everyone should have a prenup and a will IMO. Putting things in writing can never hurt. If you have no assets to protect with a prenup write up your own and the 2 of you can sign it. Granted it wouldn't hold up against a slick attorney, but if you have very little what's the chances of using an attorney for divorce.

06-26-2008, 09:45 PM	#15 (permalink)
briansol Administrator Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: Central CT Age: 28 Posts: 509 Rep Power: 10	^ it will if it gets notarized. most post offices will notoraize a document for free. just go down and sign in person.

06-26-2008, 09:47 PM	#16 (permalink)
nootrac22 Piggy Bank Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: pa Age: 32 Posts: 79 Rep Power: 1	I learned a lot with the current divorce. I was shocked to learn that you can be sued in the divorce for youother halvs attorneys fees. So you might have to pay for the lawyer who's bending you over.

06-26-2008, 10:05 PM	#17 (permalink)
getnick Super Moderator Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: West Coast Posts: 545 Rep Power: 4	its easy to get something notarized. most banks will do it to. i'm getting a prenup if i ever get married, probably not something i'll have to worry about though.

06-26-2008, 11:08 PM	#18 (permalink)
briansol Administrator Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: Central CT Age: 28 Posts: 509 Rep Power: 10	yup. I 100% will be getting one should the day arise. I have far too much to lose, and 98% of women are gold diggers. If she won't sign it, that just proves to me more that she's not worth keeping. NEEEEXT!!!!!!!!!!

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