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kerner · 10-31-2007, 01:39 PM

I have one particular coworker Ill refer to her as "Grumpy"--she has always been 2 faced and in peoples business and gets mad if you don't pay attention to her and are friends with her.She has turned several coworkers in to management for not "respecting" her and treating her rudely only because they dont like her and dont want to deal with her.She is manipulative 2 faced backstabbing and thinks that her stuff dont stink.She swears that she never gossips but I have heard her. Well She use to always bug me when I got hired there and talk to me than I started to avoid her because I just couldnt deal with her. She started saying things about me.Well b4 my boyfriend and I got together she did things with him and basically used him to pay for her to go out to eat(she has a friend at work that also went along with them and used James to).well all of a sudden she started to ignore james and treat him like crap and stopped being his friend.as soon as she knew him and I were together<br />she started to come around him as soon as she knew about him and I. She had used him--disregarded his feelings for her and just sent him on his marry way.Well Now she talks incesently about James and I and has called him and tried to talk to him when I am around and she has this up to no good grin on her face when she comes around him.We both cant trust her.He has asked her to stop calling him and told her that he doesnt want to have anything to do with her because of her treating him so badly and that she hurt him. She didnt care and made a big scene one day in front of other people about him telling her how he felt and that he is very happy with me.I turned her into management for harrassment and ironically less than a week later she turns me in for not respecting her and I told her right in front of the manager I didnt like her and she is dishonest and manipulative. How would you deal with her? I am at my wits end. She keeps bugging us.<br />another thing is that she is always staring at James and I. When we kiss or hold hands she gives us dirty looks--I KNOW it sounds like a soap opera but I m about to go crazy.<br />

baby · 10-31-2007, 01:39 PM

You don't work for the US Postal Service by any chance do you?

BigInvestor · 10-31-2007, 01:39 PM

beat that @ss

fonzy · 10-31-2007, 01:39 PM

Are you guys at a job or in a soap opera??? Stop dating at work and start doing what you were hired for. Ignore her.

50cents · 10-31-2007, 01:39 PM

Wow...do you have a city government job? then good luck getting her out of there...

There's nothing you can do but file a workers' comp stress claim.

quicken · 10-31-2007, 01:39 PM

If it's purely a social issue - ignore her. You don't need her to like you or your boyfriend.

If she is creating a hostile environment at work or behaving in a way that is unprofessional, then you should document everything that happens - dates, times, who was present and what happened/what was said. Then you should go to your management or HR department and file a formal complaint.

dotru · 10-31-2007, 01:39 PM

Your work place sounds like grade school, or a very unprofessional environment. Maybe you should consider looking for another job.

quicken · 10-31-2007, 01:39 PM

Beat her a##! A few days in jail would be worth putting her in her place!

BigInvestor · 10-31-2007, 01:39 PM

Have you ever watched "The Office"? No, really, there's always someone like that anywhere you go - school, work, the gym, church, clubs, committees. The best thing to do is stay away from them, even though I know that's not always possible. The next best thing to do is just ride it out. These kind of assholes usually move on to someone else after a while. Of course another thing to do is beat the crap out of them.

big$saver · 10-31-2007, 01:39 PM

learn the art of getting even...
it's so easy be very discreet, and always hang on with a little tape recorder so you'll have a supporting evidence with her bad deeds,,,
it you want to get even,,,
and heres a tip go to youtube.com
and find the file getting even with your coworker
i hope this would help you..

10-31-2007, 01:39 PM	#1
kerner Greenhorn Join Date: Jul 2006 Posts: 12 Rep Power: 0	What would you do about a coworker like this?? I have one particular coworker Ill refer to her as "Grumpy"--she has always been 2 faced and in peoples business and gets mad if you don't pay attention to her and are friends with her.She has turned several coworkers in to management for not "respecting" her and treating her rudely only because they dont like her and dont want to deal with her.She is manipulative 2 faced backstabbing and thinks that her stuff dont stink.She swears that she never gossips but I have heard her. Well She use to always bug me when I got hired there and talk to me than I started to avoid her because I just couldnt deal with her. She started saying things about me.Well b4 my boyfriend and I got together she did things with him and basically used him to pay for her to go out to eat(she has a friend at work that also went along with them and used James to).well all of a sudden she started to ignore james and treat him like crap and stopped being his friend.as soon as she knew him and I were together<br />she started to come around him as soon as she knew about him and I. She had used him--disregarded his feelings for her and just sent him on his marry way.Well Now she talks incesently about James and I and has called him and tried to talk to him when I am around and she has this up to no good grin on her face when she comes around him.We both cant trust her.He has asked her to stop calling him and told her that he doesnt want to have anything to do with her because of her treating him so badly and that she hurt him. She didnt care and made a big scene one day in front of other people about him telling her how he felt and that he is very happy with me.I turned her into management for harrassment and ironically less than a week later she turns me in for not respecting her and I told her right in front of the manager I didnt like her and she is dishonest and manipulative. How would you deal with her? I am at my wits end. She keeps bugging us.<br />another thing is that she is always staring at James and I. When we kiss or hold hands she gives us dirty looks--I KNOW it sounds like a soap opera but I m about to go crazy.<br />

10-31-2007, 01:39 PM	#2
baby Greenhorn Join Date: Jul 2006 Posts: 14 Rep Power: 0	What would you do about a coworker like this?? You don't work for the US Postal Service by any chance do you?

10-31-2007, 01:39 PM	#3
BigInvestor Greenhorn Join Date: Jul 2006 Posts: 15 Rep Power: 0	What would you do about a coworker like this?? beat that @ss

10-31-2007, 01:39 PM	#4
fonzy Greenhorn Join Date: Jul 2006 Posts: 10 Rep Power: 0	What would you do about a coworker like this?? Are you guys at a job or in a soap opera??? Stop dating at work and start doing what you were hired for. Ignore her.

10-31-2007, 01:39 PM	#5
50cents Greenhorn Join Date: Jul 2006 Posts: 16 Rep Power: 0	What would you do about a coworker like this?? Wow...do you have a city government job? then good luck getting her out of there... There's nothing you can do but file a workers' comp stress claim.

10-31-2007, 01:39 PM	#6
quicken Greenhorn Join Date: Jul 2006 Posts: 27 Rep Power: 6	What would you do about a coworker like this?? If it's purely a social issue - ignore her. You don't need her to like you or your boyfriend. If she is creating a hostile environment at work or behaving in a way that is unprofessional, then you should document everything that happens - dates, times, who was present and what happened/what was said. Then you should go to your management or HR department and file a formal complaint.

10-31-2007, 01:39 PM	#7
dotru Greenhorn Join Date: Jul 2006 Posts: 16 Rep Power: 0	What would you do about a coworker like this?? Your work place sounds like grade school, or a very unprofessional environment. Maybe you should consider looking for another job.

10-31-2007, 01:39 PM	#10
big$saver Piggy Bank Join Date: Jul 2006 Posts: 59 Rep Power: 6	What would you do about a coworker like this?? learn the art of getting even... it's so easy be very discreet, and always hang on with a little tape recorder so you'll have a supporting evidence with her bad deeds,,, it you want to get even,,, and heres a tip go to youtube.com and find the file getting even with your coworker i hope this would help you..

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