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alien · 10-31-2007, 01:39 PM

I think a child should be able to see/stay with her mother. However if it is only temporary and you are able to keep her by December I don't think it's such a horrible idea. It's only a month and by you getting a promotion and degree is going to help her out in the future by being able to provide for her.

homemadehalloween · 10-31-2007, 01:39 PM

She does need stability. Its not like your trying to get rid of her, your trying to do whats best. If he doesn't realize this then he certainly has problems. It's also best for young children to be away from argumentative relationships. At early ages they decide what's right and wrong, and if she sees her father argue with you then obviouslly she's going to think it's ok for her to also. Don't worry, this makes you an awesome mother because your sacrificing for what's best for your daughter.

Hawa · 10-31-2007, 01:39 PM

I think that you are doing the right thing. It's not like she's going to be there forever. I think you are doing what it takes to become more financially stable and provide a good home for your daughter. As long as you are spending time with her in the meantime, I think she will be fine.

broker · 10-31-2007, 01:39 PM

Yes and no....coming from parents who didnt want me?..a child needs at least one parent ..but id she is with loving and caring parents while you try to make a better life for her thats great!
i give you so much credit cause i know its not a easy thing to do....and the choice with your husband....is one for you to decide ......

as long as you love her...care for her and promise to be there for here whenever she needs you....
YOur a terrific mother

God Bless

broker · 10-31-2007, 01:39 PM

i understand that you are trying to do the right thing, but it might mess your daughters head up a bit when she comes to live with you full time.it might take a while for her to adjust. your parents are right that she shouldnt be around your unhealthy relationship. i hope everything turns out ok for you.

papen · 10-31-2007, 01:39 PM

I think that's okay. Like you said you'll have her for good by Christmas and it's better for her to stay with your parents just for now.

gooner · 10-31-2007, 01:39 PM

No you are not a bad parent..at first when I read the beginning of your explaination to your question, I thought yeah..but I see it from your point..you are trying to get things in order so that she can live in a very healthy environment and that makes you a good parent!!! As long as you are not abandoning her all together and she understands what you are doing..its great...as long as you get her back....then you are not a bad parent..and ignore the dad.

10-31-2007, 01:39 PM	#21
alien Piggy Bank Join Date: Jul 2006 Posts: 63 Rep Power: 6	Does this make me a bad mother? I think a child should be able to see/stay with her mother. However if it is only temporary and you are able to keep her by December I don't think it's such a horrible idea. It's only a month and by you getting a promotion and degree is going to help her out in the future by being able to provide for her.

10-31-2007, 01:39 PM	#22
homemadehalloween Greenhorn Join Date: Oct 2007 Posts: 2 Rep Power: 0	Does this make me a bad mother? She does need stability. Its not like your trying to get rid of her, your trying to do whats best. If he doesn't realize this then he certainly has problems. It's also best for young children to be away from argumentative relationships. At early ages they decide what's right and wrong, and if she sees her father argue with you then obviouslly she's going to think it's ok for her to also. Don't worry, this makes you an awesome mother because your sacrificing for what's best for your daughter.

10-31-2007, 01:39 PM	#23
Hawa Greenhorn Join Date: Jul 2006 Posts: 29 Rep Power: 6	Does this make me a bad mother? I think that you are doing the right thing. It's not like she's going to be there forever. I think you are doing what it takes to become more financially stable and provide a good home for your daughter. As long as you are spending time with her in the meantime, I think she will be fine.

10-31-2007, 01:39 PM	#24
broker Greenhorn Join Date: Jul 2006 Posts: 39 Rep Power: 6	Does this make me a bad mother? Yes and no....coming from parents who didnt want me?..a child needs at least one parent ..but id she is with loving and caring parents while you try to make a better life for her thats great! i give you so much credit cause i know its not a easy thing to do....and the choice with your husband....is one for you to decide ...... as long as you love her...care for her and promise to be there for here whenever she needs you.... YOur a terrific mother God Bless

10-31-2007, 01:39 PM	#25
broker Greenhorn Join Date: Jul 2006 Posts: 39 Rep Power: 6	Does this make me a bad mother? i understand that you are trying to do the right thing, but it might mess your daughters head up a bit when she comes to live with you full time.it might take a while for her to adjust. your parents are right that she shouldnt be around your unhealthy relationship. i hope everything turns out ok for you.

10-31-2007, 01:39 PM	#26
papen Greenhorn Join Date: Jul 2006 Posts: 21 Rep Power: 6	Does this make me a bad mother? I think that's okay. Like you said you'll have her for good by Christmas and it's better for her to stay with your parents just for now.

10-31-2007, 01:39 PM	#27
gooner Piggy Bank Join Date: Jul 2006 Posts: 75 Rep Power: 6	Does this make me a bad mother? No you are not a bad parent..at first when I read the beginning of your explaination to your question, I thought yeah..but I see it from your point..you are trying to get things in order so that she can live in a very healthy environment and that makes you a good parent!!! As long as you are not abandoning her all together and she understands what you are doing..its great...as long as you get her back....then you are not a bad parent..and ignore the dad.

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